Ways people abuse you

• Tell lies and half-truths to avoid having to justify actions or ideas.
• Accuse and blame to divert attention away from them selves.
• Refuse to take another's point of view and irrationally defend their point of view
• With hold information so the abused will look bad later on ("you should have known that"). Not sharing information someone is entitled to.
• Not acknowledging another's feelings.
• Slighting or taking digs in a non-aggressive or joking manner. Allows the abuser to say he was just kidding while still being abusive.
• Changing the subject to divert attention from themselves.
• Making someone feel worthless in an attempt to lower their self-esteem and bring them down to the level of the abuser.
• Threatening or hinting of physical, mental or sexual abuse.
• Denying anything is wrong (not being responsible and lying to self).
• Inappropriate emotional out bursts (a form of distracting attention, confusing the abused or shifting blame).
• Controlling others to domineer and limit the freedom or expression.
• Forgetting commitments and promises.
• Denying success by placing unreasonable demands, unjustly singling out or constantly placing someone in the category of a loser.
• Taking advantage of ones weakness or using shame, guilt or fear against another.
• Manipulating another person against their will.
• Submissive actions.
• Cutting some one off so they are not allowed to speak. Suppressing self-expression.
• Eliminating your ability to choose.
• Inappropriate questions or comments to evoke an emotional response.
• Humiliating someone in front of others or inappropriately pushing their buttons.
• Pretending to understand your concerns, and then disregarding them.
• Slandering some ones name, reputation, associations or activities.

~http://www.designedthinking.com/Fear/Abuse/abuse.html