I've learnt (the hard way) not to fear or deny the emotions that instinctively surface at any given moment. But at the same time, not to grant them full sovereignty over any decision I make. There is a distinction between a signal and its source. One doesn't, for example, react to a fire alarm by dousing it with water.

A part of recognizing that life and reality isn't all that straight-forward and unitary, is understanding that we ourselves, as individual beings, aren't either.

So please, cut yourself some slack.